Subdrop

Subdrop is a name given in BDSM to a feeling experienced by the submissive after a scene.

The coming down after experiencing subspace and the return to normality can happen quickly, or slowly. It can be a nice experience, or a bad one. The effects, good or bad, can last almost no time at all, or they can go on for hours, even days. Subdrop is very subjective and personal.
Care
Dominant
For the dominant, the care of their submissive should be paramount, and maintaining control of oneself at all times is integral to taking that care. The effects of subdrop (it's usually referred to as subdrop when these are "bad" effects) are manifestly similar to a kind of depressive state.

Submissive
After the submissive has rested, and even after sleeping, there can be spontaneous outbursts of emotion: tears, fear, happiness etc. Some dominants may see these as a need to be comforted, and looked after, to be held, told how much the sub is needed, and how important the sub is. Submissives can crave attention, and often the sub psyche feels that they have lost the massive attention which they had before (during the scene) from their dominant, and this can cause the unease, and charged emotions that may occur in a sub drop situation. Added to this of course, are the hugely elevated amounts of naturally produced hormones (endorphins, adrenaline etc) that are still flowing around the sub's body. These may take some time to return to normal levels, and there may well be a withdrawal effect, too. The exact psychological impact varies from person to person and the interplay between mechanisms is not well understood. All of the information on this subject is anecdotal.
 
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