10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved by a Skinny Boy

"10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved by a Skinny Boy" is a 2013 poem written by Rachel Wiley. Performed at the 2013 National Poetry Slam, the poem explores Wiley's observations and thoughts regarding her relationship with a "skinny" man. Wiley's performance of the poem was uploaded onto YouTube on August 17, 2013. The video has garnered over one million views since that time.
Background
Rachel Wiley is a poet, performer, and body positive activist from Columbus, Ohio. Her poems center around the way society views fatness.
In a 2016 interview with PBS, Wiley stated that she initially shied away from writing about her body. However, she was inspired to address the topic after hearing about two events that dealt with society's views regarding overweight people. The first event occurred in October of 2009 when designer Karmen Lagerfeld received backlash for writing that no one wanted to see curvy women on the runway. The second event occurred several months later when actor Kevin Smith was told that his weight was a safety risk on a Southwest flight. After hearing about these events, Wiley proceeded to write "Gorgon", her first piece to directly address the topic of fatness. Wiley continued to write about body positivity after publishing "Gorgon" in an attempt to examine the damaging effects of unrealistic body expectations found in U.S. media as well as the physical and emotional effects of bulimia.
Wiley has published two poetry collections, Fat Girl Finishing School and Nothing Is Okay. The first book was published in 2014, while the second poetry collection took four years and was published in 2018. Her poem "10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved By a Skinny Boy" was published in her first poetry collection after the recognition it received and has been featured in Everyday Feminism and The Huffington Post. When she tells him that he is beautiful, he refuses to believe her. She expresses fear that he will one day leave her.
In the eighth stanza, the narrator and her boyfriend encounter a girl at the coffee shop. Assuming the two are just friends, the girl proceeds to flirt with the narrator's boyfriend, causing the narrator to feel insecure. In the weeks following the incident, she replaces her face in the couple's photos with that of the girl. When her boyfriend discovers this, he comforts her by taking new photos of the two of them, refusing to allow her to delete them.
In the ninth stanza, the narrator expresses her disdain for the phrase "Big girls need love too." She goes on to state that the act of loving her should not be viewed as a fetish and that she is not a novelty.
In the tenth stanza, the narrator once again states that she is fat. Her boyfriend tells her that she is so much more than that and proceeds to kiss her.
Reception
The poem was featured in an article on The Huffington Post, where the author said of one line, "We couldn't agree more." The video has over 44,000 likes on YouTube with few dislikes. The comment section is primarily praise for the poem and poet.<ref name= "youtube" />
Publication
"10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved by a Skinny Boy" was published by the company Button Poetry in the book Nothing is Okay by Rachel Wiley in 2017. Button Poetry shared Wiley's performance of her own poem on various social media outlets, such as Facebook and YouTube.

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